As a person matures and gets settled in a life style, confronting, accepting or even appreciating the need for change becomes more difficult. When you look at your life in relation to the world around you, you will find areas for satisfaction and also for dissatisfaction.
You know where you need to improve to enhance the quality of your life. But most people hesitant to do anything about this because of the uncertainty of how to go about making the changes and the fear that changes may not only not work, but also that the attempt to change may affect what they already have.
You may want to change but converting desire into reality is more than you can handle. Knute Rockne, one of the greatest football coaches of all time once said "Most men, when they think they are thinking, are merely rearranging their prejudices."
This is where lifestyle coaching comes in. Life style coaching transforms your Resolutions into Evolutions. It is a powerful approach that will assist you to change directions, where needed, and implement new behavior that will produce positive outcomes.
Lifestyle coaching is what you need if you: Are exhausted and depressed all the time. Your lack of progress not only makes you unhappy but kills your initiative and thus drains you of energy to make the changes you need. Are frustrated and feeling that you are not getting any where.
Frustration can be good because that is the root of the desire for change. But most of us need help in channeling the frustration into paths that lead to positive outcomes.
Have tired to make changes in your life but have either given up or let them slip and reverted to your old life style.
Lifestyle coaching helps you to look and progress beyond Resolutions and commit to Evolution. Evolution means creating supportive behaviors that lead to new desired outcomes. Evolution means being more aware of and optimizing on your strengths rather than focusing on upon your weaknesses.
Concentrating upon one's weaknesses or lack of competence is a normal phenomenon. This causes you to focus upon trying to fix things that are wrong in your life, rather than building upon your strengths.
No one is perfect and everyone has weaknesses. Yes, you need to correct your weaknesses as much as you can. But to allow your life to be guided by that goal means you are always looking inwards and never outwards and will miss the chances that life offers you. Looking inwards all the time is an easy trap to fall into. Lifestyle coaching leads us out of this.
Einstein once said "The current problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which they were created." In other words, your problems are rooted in your past. Whether it is a week or a decade old problem, you have progressed from the time the problem arose. Are you still looking at the problem through week or decade old eyes?
"The world hates change. Yet it is the only thing that brought progress." - Charles F. Kettering. Why does the world hate change? Because change brings in the unknown. It's the same with individuals. Some of the most common reactions to and defenses against making or accepting change are: Fear - we want a 100% guarantee that nothing will go wrong.
Perfectionism - The thought of failure may destroy a person's self image and lower his or her self esteem. People with low self esteem refuse to let go of what little they think they have in the fear that then nothing will be left. They are convinced that they are undeserving of love and besides taking a perverse pleasure in it, use it to hold back others.
Stubbornness - In excess this leads to being a control freak. These people have a fierce and misplaced sense of independence and will not allow anyone to tell them how to live their lives. They think they are in control of their lives. Sadly, the opposite is true. It is their stubbornness and fear of change that controls them and limits their growth.
Learned Victimization - These people believe they are helpless and would rather keep on giving up on life than on taking a chance of a more successful approach.
Lifestyle coaching is not for everyone. It is designed for those who are ready to change their behavior and approach to life; those who are willing to create different outcomes. Lifestyle coaching is a two way street. You will be offered solutions and the steps you need to take to succeed. You then have to take responsibility for achieving these goals. You have to accept your own accountability.
You will be given steps on how to take those beliefs and behaviors that hold you back and how to replace them with attitudes and actions that will create the reality that you do desire. The lynchpin of the whole process is your desire to create an altered reality for yourself. Without this desire, lifestyle coaching has nothing to work upon.
It is interesting that once your start on the process, you will have a better perception of you own current reality and where you are at. Life will hold up a mirror in front of you and you will be able to see the image clearly. This increased conscious awareness will allow you to objectively examine and discard those beliefs and behaviors that not only do not support your objectives in life, but often act as road blocks.
A good metaphor of the lifestyle coaching process is the use of the navigation system in your car. When you start, the system will ask you where you want to go. You then need to enter your desired destination and the system tells you how to get there. All you need to do is follow the guidance the system gives you.
Similarly, lifestyle coaching takes a lot of stress out of your life. You decide where your life should be going and follow the steps the system gives you to get there. All you need is the desire to reach your destination in life.
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